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#420990 - 07/31/08 08:43 AM
Once again, I'd like your suggestion..please!!!
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braziliangirl
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Registered: 04/22/08
Posts: 1206
Loc: Chicagoland
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Hi ladies,
I know I have been asking for so many opinions and help latelly, but, lemme tell ya', I am finding myself a bit 'lost' lately...too many decisions to make and no one to help me out. 
My mom or sister, or even a true friend would come handy at this time! 
But, since that is NOT my case, I feel I can trust most of you guys experienced opinion...
My dillema right now is, once again, in regards to wedding stuff...
So, we announced the engagement and that we picked a date (not a 'save the date', just let ppl know the date, since soooo many were asking  )
Now, we are planning on having that simple, but pretty, outdoor celebration for close "friends only", about 50ppl... (meaning: close friends and people that we have gone to weddings lately), and decided to leave family out as a mutual decision (his dad has 12 brother and sisters, with their families it makes about 70ppl)
So, now we are not sure about a few things, and I have to say: his family has way too many different opinions and FH is not much help when it comes to certain practical decisions.
We are not sure:
Do we have a wedding shower???
Is it OK even though we are having such small, simple celebration and no church wedding, only a private cerimony at the court house?
And this is my second marriage (completely different circle of friends though)
If yes, how do I address this? My family does not live in the country and will not be part of all of this (we have alternative plans once we get to Brasil )
Any kind of opinion & suggestion helps....
I feel like an orphan,
Thank you guys!!!! Bear with me please....
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"...It should take you exactly four seconds to cross from here to that door; I'll give you two..."
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#420995 - 07/31/08 08:49 AM
Re: Once again, I'd like your suggestion..please!!!
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newbielady
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Registered: 04/08/08
Posts: 2443
Loc: OK (my heart is in TEXAS!)
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is not inviting his family to the "party" going to hurt anyone's feelings?
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#420996 - 07/31/08 08:50 AM
Re: Once again, I'd like your suggestion..please!!!
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Blingaholic
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Registered: 03/25/07
Posts: 10448
Loc: Northern VA
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Now, we are planning on having that simple, but pretty, outdoor celebration for close "friends only", about 50ppl... (meaning: close friends and people that we have gone to weddings lately), and decided to leave family out as a mutual decision (his dad has 12 brother and sisters, with their families it makes about 70ppl)
i don't know how your FH's family would feel, but i know my DH's family would view that as a slap in the face.
Do we have a wedding shower???
i don't think you guys are supposed to throw yourselves a wedding shower. that's something someone else throws for you, like a close friend or family member.
Is it OK even though we are having such small, simple celebration and no church wedding, only a private cerimony at the court house?
is what OK? having a wedding shower?
And this is my second marriage (completely different circle of friends though) If yes, how do I address this? My family does not live in the country and will not be part of all of this (we have alternative plans once we get to Brasil )
i don't see why that matters. all they know is you're getting married.
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#421006 - 07/31/08 09:04 AM
Re: Once again, I'd like your suggestion..please!!!
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Blingaholic
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Registered: 03/25/07
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oh but his parents and siblings will be there, yes? just not the aunts and uncles and cousins, you mean.
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#421007 - 07/31/08 09:05 AM
Re: Once again, I'd like your suggestion..please!!!
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braziliangirl
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Registered: 04/22/08
Posts: 1206
Loc: Chicagoland
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oh but his parents and siblings will be there, yes? just not the aunts and uncles and cousins, you mean.
yes, that is what I meant, sorry if I made it kinda confusing.
HIS parents, sis, bro-in-law, nephew, grandpa will be there, for sure. MY parents and family, no.
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#421016 - 07/31/08 09:23 AM
Re: Once again, I'd like your suggestion..please!!!
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Blingaholic
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Registered: 03/25/07
Posts: 10448
Loc: Northern VA
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if they want to throw you a shower, let them! 
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#421019 - 07/31/08 09:24 AM
Re: Once again, I'd like your suggestion..please!!!
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ebedner
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Registered: 04/17/07
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I agree - if they want to throw you a shower that would be wonderful.
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