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#529456 - 11/12/09 07:22 PM
Trash The Dress?!?
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Jsmith8
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Registered: 07/05/09
Posts: 977
Loc: Chicago
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Apparently, this is the new hip bridal thing to do however I was unaware of what it even was until recently.
From what I understand it involves "the idea that the dress (and the bride) should be kept perfect- perfectly neat and clean and pure. As an "alternative" idea, a few years ago a photographer did a shoot where the dresses got filthy dirty, torn, and even burned (or at least this shoot is when I first heard about/saw it). One of my favorite shots has a groom, a shovel, a hole in the dirt, and what looked like a dead-body bride in the trunk (the photographer did a dead-groom version later). It's caught on and now some brides choose to do a "trash the dress" style shoot after the wedding. Sometimes the dresses just get dirty and are able to be cleaned and sometimes they're wrecked. It's up to the dress wearer really."
Some of the women who even partake in this spill paint on the dress (and other artsy ideas) with their new husband and then they cut a piece of the dress off, frame it and show it in their house as art.
It's a different look on things that's for sure. I guess it's more artistic and has longer self life than just allowing your dress to sit around in a box somewhere.
Have you heard of this? Have you/will you do this? I am so curious now!
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#529482 - 11/12/09 08:56 PM
Re: Trash The Dress?!?
[Re: Jsmith8]
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Blingaholic
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Registered: 03/25/07
Posts: 15890
Loc: VA
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i've never heard of this but heck no i wouldn't do it! i LOVE my dress and it's been preserved. hopefully one day my daughter or granddaughter or niece will want to wear it.
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#529485 - 11/12/09 09:05 PM
Re: Trash The Dress?!?
[Re: Blingaholic]
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ericader
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Registered: 12/04/06
Posts: 2458
Loc: Seattle, WA
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Good Lord, my dress was about the only positive part of my whole wedding experience (LONG story) and the only "artifact" from that day I still keep around, in addition to the husband  Even looking at the wedding photos (12 years later) makes me gag, I was so traumatized, lol. Shoulda just eloped to Vegas...
So no, I adore my dress and would never ruin it...though I have contemplated selling the darn thing. Takes up a fair bit of space!
I kind of wonder why these brides went through a traditional wedding at all if they bear so much hostility towards the wedding gown? Or am I not thinking deep enough? Maybe THEY shoulda gone to Vegas, lolololol...
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#529491 - 11/12/09 09:21 PM
Re: Trash The Dress?!?
[Re: ericader]
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maryl
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Registered: 04/13/08
Posts: 2017
Loc: FL
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I've never heard of this either. I don't really care about my dress - it was a $30 sundress I bought at Marshalls. LOL. But, I'm not one for getting dirty, so I think I'd pass.
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#529496 - 11/12/09 09:24 PM
Re: Trash The Dress?!?
[Re: ericader]
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Anozira
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Registered: 07/13/06
Posts: 5132
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I think it's disrespectful especially if the bride's dress was purchased by someone else as a gift. I would rather store the dress for a daughter or sister to wear or use the fabric for a christening gown down the road. A family friend of ours had decorative pillows for her bedroom made from her gown's fabric. They turned out quite lovely and she gets to 'see' her wedding gown everyday I've also heard of brides selling or donating their dresses. To each her own but I think this Trash the Dress fad is just awful. Those pics you described of a bride posing as a corpse in the trunk sound rather macabre, nothing classy or artistic about it at all imo.
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#529511 - 11/12/09 10:55 PM
Re: Trash The Dress?!?
[Re: maliasmom]
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MrsW
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Registered: 09/17/03
Posts: 9038
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I heard of this a couple of years ago and sought out pictures online to see what it was all about. I have to say most of the pictures I saw where disappointing as they did not reflect the joy of a marriage. It looked like young girls trying so hard to be sexy, (water pictures) and everyone was frowning and going for that dark morbid look. I just don't understand wanting that to represent not only your wedding day but more importantly your marriage!
There was one set of pictures I thought were great because they just portrayed so much joy, happiness and laughter. The whole Wedding party and the Bride and Groom were jumping off a pier into a lake and all the pictures where fun. They even had some on a boat with them waterskiing. Maybe that is a favorite activity of the bride and groom. The dress didn't look trashed, just wet!
It is funny because just yesterday dh and I were talking about an awful dress I wore as a bridesmaid this summer! Dh noticed it still in the closet and asked why it was still there, I said I do need to get rid of it, I need to donate it or something. He laughed and said no one wants that dress, they would rather go naked!  Then he said he knows it would fit in our trash chute as he practiced with it in hopes that the day would come when we could have a shove the ugly dress down the trash chute ceremony! 
So while I would not trash my wedding dress I could understand doing so with an awful bridesmaids dress!  Come on ladies you know you all had or have one!
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#529518 - 11/12/09 11:24 PM
Re: Trash The Dress?!?
[Re: MrsW]
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Snazzi33
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Registered: 04/27/09
Posts: 112
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I heard about this practice about a year ago. And the pictures depicted in the bridal magainze showed a couple, all smile and laughter frolicking in the ocean. And I thought that was beautiful, and since I live near the ocean, I might do the same when it comes to my wedding. Both my boyfriend and I love the ocean and we're pretty fun people. I think it would be cute if we splashed about in the water and just had fun, you know? I know it's a serious day, but we love each other and we're jokesters
That being said, I personally, dislike wedding photos where it's all about the bride being sexy or there are no smiles! It's such a happy occassion, you shouldn't be able to stop smiling!
But, you know, each couple to their own. If the macabre couple loved their wedding photos bcause they were unqiue, more power to them! i think all wedding photos, whether they be very different and arsty, playful and wet, or traditional and lovely, they all can be good or bad depending on how tastefully they are done. But they will always be memorable, and that's what is most important
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#529524 - 11/13/09 03:49 AM
Re: Trash The Dress?!?
[Re: ericader]
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AdaBeta27
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Registered: 08/29/06
Posts: 1105
Loc: Dreary Station, NW PA
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Good Lord, my dress was about the only positive part of my whole wedding experience (LONG story) and the only "artifact" from that day I still keep around, in addition to the husband Even looking at the wedding photos (12 years later) makes me gag, I was so traumatized, lol. Shoulda just eloped to Vegas... So no, I adore my dress and would never ruin it...though I have contemplated selling the darn thing. Takes up a fair bit of space! I kind of wonder why these brides went through a traditional wedding at all if they bear so much hostility towards the wedding gown? Or am I not thinking deep enough? Maybe THEY shoulda gone to Vegas, lolololol...
That made my morning. Hey, at least you got a good husband out of it, lol. Although I was very happy at the time, my husband didn't turn out to be a keeper. But I still would never take that out on an innocent wedding dress, that I put many hours into making myself. I even hand beaded all the lace myself. TRASH IT?? NO WAY!
The bridal industry is a huge business. If more wedding gowns get trashed after the first trip down the aisle, then that's fewer left over to be resold, rented, or remodeled. Eliminate the competition and stymie the secondhand and rental business? In the declining economy, I could see the rental gowns business becoming a strong contender, a practical option for older brides and second or third marriages, where the people don't totally buy into the whole queen-for-a-day mystique anymore, but still want a formal wedding without squandering a small fortune. I actually know several women who could afford new but purchased used wedding gowns. You could not tell it was a used dress.
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